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I think everybody has heard of Buddha's famous expression "we are what we think". This is 100% accurate and I would like to add that we not only are what we think, but we also are the way in which we think of things. For example, for a specific task I can think "I cannot do it" or "At this point in time I face a difficulty to accomplish this task". Although, the meaning is exactly the same (I am not able to do the task) the way that we choose to think of the challenge plays a tremendous role in building a solid positive attitude in ourselves.
The magic of this technique is that since the rebuilding of negative thoughts to positive ones doesn't lie exclusively on the removal of the "not" in the sentence or on finding of the correct antonym, we are forced to continuously discover alternative paths of positive thinking. Now at this point, do you also see the indirect benefit of mastering this skill? It is easy to observe that someone who has mastered the skill of positive thinking has also mastered the skill of being flexible. Flexibility is an essential skill which, as we will see in another post, characterizes an emotionally competent person.
Do you think positively? Do you use positive words to express your ideas? Are you conscious of your way of thinking and of the impact it has on you and your life? Are you ready to take some action to become a more positive person? Do you recognize people in your environment that do not think in a positive way and that use many "don'ts" and "cannots" ? What is their life like?
Coaching tip: Find a good friend who shares your ideas about positive thinking and self-improvement and do the following exercise together: Go to a nice, relaxing cafe and order your favorite drinks. While discussing various topics help each other by pointing out any time each one of you uses negative words or shows a negative way of thinking. At a more advanced level, your friend can push you with a topic that he knows is challenging for you and keep track of the way you respond / react in the conversation.